The #1 Underrated Habit to Transform Your Life
On finding your soul in the dark
Everyone wants the insider scoop, the secret sauce, the hack to win it all.
We all want the best tips and tricks to get the upper hand out there in the marketplace of money, relationships, and status.
We want the #1 fastest way to ______ (insert click bait here).
We want this because we are hardwired for productivity, performance, and profit.
Our society is so obsessed with “success,” that our scripted question when meeting a new person is, “what do you do?” Meaning of course, how do you get money, and is it enough money to deem you “successful.”
But you’re probably wondering:
“What’s this underrated habit all about? Did I get bait and switched here?! Or is this guy going to help me get paid, get laid, or maybe even get saved?” ✝️
Chill. We will get there.
But before I can tell you about the most underrated habit you can develop to transform your life, I need to tell you a secret.
The Big Secret
It’s the biggest secret that nobody talks about.
Not to be confused with THE Secret. I’m not talking about how to manifest your perfect partner or attract $1,000,000 by Friday. I’m not talking about the secret to creating your #bestlife by writing it down 9 times every morning. Or how to align to the timeline where you have abs without effort, multiple partners without drama, and achievement without work.
That secret isn’t actually a secret at all. Everyone from Instagram shamans to soccer moms are blabbering on about it. But unfortunately, using the word ‘quantum’ out of its context in physics is less of a life-hack and more of a new age-quack.
And when the afterglow of the ayahuasca ceremonies wears off, your savings have dried up, and you gotta face the shit of Monday morning, that secret seems to come up snake eyes.
So then what is the actual big secret?
It’s the one hiding right under everyone’s noses. It’s so elementary, it should have been taught to you before a,b,c and 1,2,3.
And once you understand it, you can develop the most underrated habit for transforming your life.
Now, if transforming your life isn’t your cup of tea, I get it. Most people will play it safe and spend their lives in the doldrums and flatlands of the “American Dream.”
Or as Thoreau put it:
“The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.”
BUT, if you’ve read this far, chances are you might wanna swap out that desperation for transformation.
Maybe you’re starting to get the sense that the current version of the American Dream is a bit more like a nightmare, or at least a kind of MLM scam (and you’re at the bottom of the pyramid).
The big secret has been kept secret because it subverts the American Dream. It challenges the very foundation of our society.
It’s the secret that was taught by the sages of all ages, and when put into practice, it changes everything.
It’s the secret to both personal transformation and cultural renaissance.
So, without further ado, here it is:
Light and dark go together.
Yang is father, Yin is mother.
Life and death make each other.
As I said, it’s been right under our noses all along.
You just gotta venture into the dark to truly see it.
Sweet Darkness
When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.
When your vision has gone,
no part of the world can find you.
Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.
There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.
The dark will be your home
tonight.
The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.
You must learn one thing.
The world was made to be free in.
Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn
anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.
The concept of yin & yang has roots dating back to ancient China’s. Taoism is one of the oldest wisdom traditions in the world, forming about 2500 years ago.
In Taoism, yin and yang together represent how all aspects of reality are made of complementary, interdependent opposites that form one unified whole.
Yin and yang describe pairs like dark/light, stillness/movement, feminine/masculine, death/life, earth/heaven, not as enemies but as complements that define and need each other.
Both arise from the Tao, the underlying Way of the universe (God), so neither is “good” or “bad.”
In Taoist life, harmony comes from living in balance, not from eliminating one side (e.g. defeating the forces of darkness).
For Taoists, society is healthiest when yin and yang—rest and activity, receiving and doing, structure and flow—are in dynamic equilibrium.
But our society is far from this ideal of the harmonic balance of opposites isn’t it?
We live a culture of constant doing, of endless striving, of yang without yin.
We live in a nation that runs on fire, from power plants to silicon chips, from combustion engines to light pollution.
Drill baby drill. Burn baby burn.
We live in the war machine, a tyrannical masculine empire, who’s mission is conquest and dominion. Conquest of people, of species, and of nature itself.
The great symbols of our yang culture are the sky scraper and the rocket—the metal cocks of billionaires playing out their daddy issues and inferiority complexes.
We’ve forgotten the yin principal, the sacred waters of life, the Goddess beneath our feet.
We are turning our blue-green mother that birthed and nourished us into a dystopian desert of plastic, pollution, and progress.
And for what?
To be successful.
To maximize shareholder value.
To leave our mark on the world, just so we can escape to the next one. 🚀
Billionaires aside, notice how this imbalance of yin & yang shows up in your own life. Notice your daily habits, your priorities, your goals.
How much of your life is force vs flow, work vs play, control vs trust, thinking vs feeling?
How is your nervous system? Burning out from the work load? Buried by the doom scroll? Breaking down from the news cycle?
When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.When your vision has gone,
no part of the world can find you.Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.
Our eyes are tired. Our vision has gone.
We are bulldozing the garden to make way for the machines.
We all have a growing sense of anxiety and despair as we look out at the horror.
And yet, with our pathological fear of the dark, we illuminate the shit show 24/7. Street lights keep the city “safe” from the wonder and awe of the night sky. Glowing screens keep our bloodshot eyes fixated on the tsunami of hyper normal stimuli flicking through our feeds.
We can’t look away.
The average American spends about 7 hours per day staring into screens!
Our attention is captured by the business models of billionaire oligarchs. We spend 1/3 or more of our waking lives algorithmically trapped in the machine!
Time to stop scrolling and remember.
Time to remember the yin.
Time to go into the dark. Into the float tank.
There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.The dark will be your home
tonight.The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.
Ahh, the sweet darkness. That sacred stillness. The profound silence.
Take a deep breathe. Take 10 more.
Let your body go. Give up your need to control. The sacred water will hold.
Slow down everything. Listen. Breathe.
Relax. Recover. REST.
And then you notice it. That inner horizon that stretches further than you can see. You’ve entered the real of psyche—Greek for soul.
You feel something strange happening. Something you used to experience every day as a child.
Discovery.
You’ve found your way back to that inner frontier that you’d forgotten. It’s right where you left it, just waiting for your return.
Welcome back. Welcome home. Welcome to that “still small voice” of inner knowing.
Welcome to the embrace of pure grace—that Holy Spirit of the Yin Goddess.
You must learn one thing.
The world was made to be free in.Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.
This world was made to be free in!
All of the scams, illusions, and distractions holding you back from that freedom are not serving you. Give up all those other worlds except the one to which you truly belong.
Let them all go. What a fucking relief to let it all go!
This is timeless wisdom. And a trip back to the darkness is the perfect reminder.
Journey into stillness and remember your inner freedom, know your innate belonging to this world, and fulfill your unique place within it.
When you return to that deep now (what the Greeks called Kairos), you remember what you had forgotten. You recall the wisdom in your bones that David Whyte has so beautifully woven into language.
With this reconnection to your inner child/sage, you let out a deep sigh—a long exhale of scripted stories, societal pressure, and bullshit conditioning. You unclinch your muscles, loosen the grip on your mind, and allow your body to flow with the natural rhythm of breathe.
You release the yang control, and surrender to the yin.
By letting go you flow.
Only then can you return to Kairos, to the inner sanctum, to the holy of holies.
You embark on an inward journey deep into the YOUniverse. A quest to discover who you truly are, and what you’re made for.
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learnanything or anyone
that does not bring you aliveis too small for you.
The Most Underrated Habit
Ok so here it is.
Here’s the most underrated habit for transforming your life, in just three words:
SACRED YIN RITUAL.
Let me explain by breaking down each of those words.
SACRED
Something that is sacred is un-fuck-withable. Meaning you protect it. You don’t let mundane distractions or profane temptation prevent you from upholding the sacred.
Something that is sacred is also holy. Meaning it fundamentally matters. It’s of the upmost importance. What is sacred is of supreme value.
This is the wisdom of traditions like the Sabbath. One in every seven days is sacred. On that day, you forget about all the bullshit of selling insurance and get back to what really matters. You swap chasing for being.
So ask yourself the question, what is sacred?
YIN
As Whyte so brilliantly illuminated in his poem, darkness is the essence of yin.
Stillness, rest, water. These are all embodiments of the feminine principle. And you wont find a more yin environment on earth than a float tank.
Floating weightless in silent darkness for 60-90 minutes is a guaranteed potent dose of yin. The nervous system regulates, stress dissolves, and the body finds equilibrium. As the float progresses, the mind relaxes, shifting into a waking dream state.
You begin to process the backed-up queue of life experience you’ve accumulated, all the tension in your body, the old emotions, the fears and anxieties.
Then your curiosity comes online and you begin to wonder. 🧑🏼🚀
Even one float can do miracles for the body, the mind, and the spirit. But whether you choose to use the float tank or not, choose a yin practice that calls to you.
It might be yin yoga, meditation, a tea ceremony, or some other mode of being that isn’t oriented so heavily towards doing.
Bonus points for entering silence, darkness, and stillness.
RITUAL
As we’ve already explored with the yin yang, structure and flow go together. So if you want to experience more flow (yin) in your life, you need to structure it (yang) into your calendar.
If you want to be strong, create an exercise ritual.
If you want to be productive, create a deep work ritual.
And if you want to be wise, create a sacred yin ritual.
So seek refuge in ritual.
Pick a rhythm (weekly Sabbath, monthly new moon, etc), design your ritual, and make it sacred (highest priority and treated with reverence).
Make it your own. It’s for you. It’s your portal back to Kairos, to the present moment, and to your most authentic self.
If you’re wondering how to start your yin journey, book a float session. It will take you there one way or another. Then use the float tank to connect to your intuition and begin designing your ritual.
One more little secret:
Amidst all the physical, mental, and emotional benefits of crafting a sacred yin ritual, one stands out above the rest. As you enter the dark and explore the inner realm of psyche, you begin to know thyself.
And eventually, you find your soul.
Happy Floating,
Christian
Las Vegas, 9/02/2026
P.S. Here’s a 2500 year old version of this same story:
Tao Te Ching #28
Know the male,
yet keep to the female:
receive the world in your arms.
If you receive the world,
the Tao will never leave you
and you will be like a little child.
Know the white,
yet keep to the black:
be a pattern for the world.
If you are a pattern for the world,
the Tao will be strong inside you
and there will be nothing you can’t do.
Know the personal,
yet keep to the impersonal:
accept the world as it is.
If you accept the world,
the Tao will be luminous inside you
and you will return to your primal self.
The world is formed from the void,
like utensils from a block of wood.
The Master knows the utensils,
yet keeps to the the block:
thus she can use all things.